Category Archives: Pregnancy

Kitties and Babies

Boo.  I have some sort of fun news (on theCT front) but mostly I feel like crap because we have to have our angry old man cat, Bean, put to sleep on Thursday.  He is 16 years old (and yes, named after Frances Bean Cobain) and has had a wonderful life.  I got him as a kitten and have had him over half my life.   He had escaped death on numerous occasions, swam across a river to make it back home to the old house wehad moved from, and lived life as the cat version of the angry old man shaking his cane at you and yelling at you to get off his lawn.  He regularly goes on “walkabouts” and is gone for days on end (his second-last one was when I was in the hospital with Lyric so that was a huge added stress on top) but after his most recent walkabout a few weeks ago he hasn’t been the same.  He used to weigh about 15-20lb but now is about half that and I picked himup yesterday to find that one of his canines had fallen out while cleaning himself and was stuck in his tail fur.  He also keeps falling down when he tries to stand and can’t keep himself clean.  I feel horrible to have to make this choice for him, but I would hope that if I was in pain and by all appearances wanted it to end, that someone would help me out.  We’ve decided that on Thursday afternoon, after giving the boys tomorrow afternoon to come over and say goodbye, that my mum, James and I will go have him put to sleep.  We’ll take him to the mountain that overlooks our town where two of our other kitties are buried (Tonks and Bison) and lay him to rest there.  I’m going to miss him dearly and I hate to do this, but I know that he is suffering right now and I don’t want that for him after such a wonderful life.

On the plus side, we are starting to get our Connecticut trip sorted out.  We were originally supposed to move Dec 6 and James was going to be working on college football for ESPN but now it looks like we are going to be going to Ft Lauderdale in March for 6 weeks of baseball spring training and then move to CT after that.  James is crazy excited because baseball is his favorite sport and he wasn’t really looking forward to covering football.  I am excited because we get to be around our family for Lyric’s first Christmas and I don’t have to be in CT for the winter!  Sorry folks, I am just not a winter kind of gal!  Two other bonuses are that 2 of our really good friends are expecting a baby at the end of November so we’ll definitely be around for that, as well as James being the birth partner for our friend Meredith who is a surrogate for a family in TO.  I am so fucking proud of him for doing this (he attends all the midwife appointments, texts or calls her daily to make sure she is drinking enough water and taking her vitamins, and is taking the “Birthing from Within” class with her) and she is not due until the end of December.  He was going to have to fly back at the first sign of labour and this works out a whole lot better for him.  This also takes us closer to the end of the school year soif one or both or the boys come with us, it will be much easier.

On the Lyric front, things are fabulous.  I feel blessed because she is such an easy baby.  She just turned 5 months yesterday (how did that happen???) and every day is a blessing.  She gets funnier and funnier all the time.  She plays peek-a-boo now and giggles when I pretend to eat her thighs and give her raspberries on her belly.  She is so smart and constantly pays attention to what is going on around her (to the point of making people uncomfortable when she watches them!).  Having her has brought me even closer to my mum (we were already super close before) because it makes me realize just how much she loves me and for her she gets to see her baby all grown up and taking care of a baby on her own.  My dad on the other hand, is not something I care to think about right now, maybe I’ll write about it later when I’m not so pissed off.  Lyric is 21lb already and about 27″ long.  She’s wearing all 9-12 month clothes with a few 18 month things thrown in!

We have been cloth diapering full time now for a couple of months.  It has certainly been an ordeal as I have tried (and failed) with 3 detergents finally to settle on the one that costs $20pkg (Rockin Green Soft Rock)!!  She grew out of her prefolds and fitteds and we just received 10 new pocket diapers from Kawaii Baby in the mail today.  They are a great company to deal with (free shipping over $70) and their diapers are cheap and awesome!  She also looks ridiculously cute in her leopard print diapers so that’s a huge bonus.

Anyhoo, she is starting to stir and I want to get to her before she wakes up so here are some pix to keep you all happy. xo


mmmm..... peas!



My beautiful boy Bean



Lyric and Daddy getting ready for Halloween



Birth Quiz from MarriedMe

1. WAS YOUR FIRST PREGNANCY PLANNED? Absolutely! We tried for about 15 months.

2. WERE YOU MARRIED AT THE TIME? Yup, we had celebrated our first anniversary about 6 weeks before I got pregnant.

3. WHAT WERE THE REACTIONS? It was the best thing that had ever happened to me. I cried in the doctors office and the nurse wasn’t sure whether she should congratulate me or comfort me.

4. WAS ABORTION AN OPTION FOR YOU? Absolutely not! I wanted her so badly.

5. HOW OLD WERE YOU? We’re pretty sure I got pregnant on my 29th birthday.

6. HOW DID YOU FIND OUT YOU WERE PREGNANT? I ovulated late (I was charting) so I waited 14 days after and took a test. It was faint so I took another one the next morning. It was faint as well so I went to the clinic to take a test as soon as they opened. Sitting in the waiting room was the most anxious I have ever felt in my life

7. WHO DID YOU TELL FIRST? I told James there was a faint line but it just seemed to good to be true! He was at work when I went to the clinic so I texted my best friend who was 6 months pregnant at the time. It was so awesome to share that with her. Then I called my mum.

8. DID YOU WANT TO FIND OUT THE SEX? Absolutely! I have 2 step-sons so I wanted to know if I was going to have another boy!

9. DUE DATE? May 1 2001

10. DID YOU HAVE MORNING SICKNESS? Yup. Not a lot of actual vomiting though. I was just ALWAYS on the verge of it. I kept trying to make myself puke to feel some relief but it wouldn’t work

11. WHAT DID YOU CRAVE? Kit Kats and Skor Blizzards

12. WHO/WHAT IRRITATED YOU THE MOST? Mostly the “you’ll see” comments. And strangers trying to touch me.


14. DID YOU WISH YOU HAD THE OPPOSITE SEX OF WHAT YOU WERE GETTING? No way! I was terrified it would be a boy and I would be disappointed.

15. HOW MANY POUNDS DID YOU GAIN THROUGHOUT THE PREGNANCY? over 40! But I only have 7lbs left to go!

16. DID YOU HAVE A BABY SHOWER? heck yeah. I opened presents for 3 hours straight.

17. WAS IT A SURPRISE OR DID YOU KNOW? I knew. I helped my mum and MIL plan it

18. DID YOU HAVE ANY COMPLICATIONS DURING YOUR PREGNANCY? no real complications. I hated being pregnant though, which I felt horrible about because I had wanted it so badly. I went on sick leave from work though because my swelling was so bad and I couldn’t be on my feet for 8 hours.

19. WHERE DID YOU GIVE BIRTH? Nanaimo Regional General Hospital, BC, Canada



22. WHO WATCHED YOU GIVE BIRTH? James and the OR staff

23. WAS IT NATURAL OR C-SECTION? a Supernatural Ceasarean Birth

24. DID YOU TAKE MEDICINE TO EASE THE PAIN? Yup, I was induced with Cervadil and Pitocin so the contractions were intense the whole labour. I had and Epidural after about 10 hours or so and then a spinal block before my surgery.


28. WHEN WAS YOUR CHILD ACTUALLY BORN? May 11, 2010 6:41am

30. WHAT DID YOU NAME HIM/HER? Lyric Sinead Maggie O’Callaghan

31. HOW OLD IS YOUR FIRST BORN TODAY? 5 months today!

Induction Eve

My induction is scheduled for 7 am (or sometime around then) tomorrow morning.  And I am ready.  It’s not the course I thought I would be taking.  Perhaps it will lead to more interventions or perhaps it’s all I need to kick things into gear and have a natural birth.  Regardless of what gets me there, I am going to have my daughter in the end and that is all that matters.  It’s going to be a long, hard day full of emotion and pain and frustration and joy and I am ready to meet it head on.

My laundry is done, my house is clean (or at least as clean as the O’Callaghan house ever gets!), my bag is ready to go, the car seat is in the car, and I am having a beer.  I’m hoping to get to sleep at a somewhat reasonable hour but since this is like all the Christmas Eves ever put together all in one night, I don’t think that’s going to be likely.

So here we go…


Had another midwife appointment today — my first “post due date” appointment.  I was hoping for some good news but after doing an internal exam she found that I am O cm dilated and my cervix is still way at the back.  No signs of Lyric coming anytime soon on her own.

I was disappointed because I was having contractions last night that made me think maybe she was on her way.  They were pretty far apart and didn’t last long but they hurt like PMS cramps and it felt promising.  I even swept my living room thinking maybe the midwife would be coming over.  Lyric was also doing her painful head-burrowing maneuver into my pelvis that hurt so bad I actually yelped.  But alas, it is all trickery.

As anyone reading this can tell, I’m not in a good mood.  I really wanted to steer as clear of medical intervention as possible but I also have a phobia/fear of post-term babies.  Monday will be 10 days past my due date and I am scheduled for an induction at 7 am (or some time around then).  We are going in for an Non Stress Test tomorrow morning to make sure she is doing ok and has enough fluid and is moving enough and reacting enough.  The induction method we are using is the insertion of Cervadil (Prostaglandins) so it is less intense than if I was on a Pitocin drip.  So I guess there’s that bright side since I’m not too fond of the idea of being hooked up to Pitocin and the type of contractions that causes.

So that’s that.  Maybe she’ll come on her own but I’m really not counting on it.  I’ve tried all the natural remedies/techniques I am able to and nothing is working.  (btw, if another person tells me to have sex I’m going to explode.  I am in way too much pain for that and way too frustrated and if it was an option, I would have done it already).  So now we wait some more.

May Day

Well, my due date (May 1) has come and gone but still no Lyric.  Oh well, she’ll come when she’s ready so now I just wait for the greatest moment of my life….. yeah that’s not hard at all!

James and I had a lovely May Day though.  I got all dressed up in my Witchy finest and we headed down early to the Beltane celebration at Bowen Park.  We took some beautiful (and some not-so beautiful!) Earth Mama Goddess pix of me by the river and in the flowers.  I love the maternity photo shoot Sarah did but we also wanted something more “us” so it was great to take some nature pix.

The Beltane ritual was the first Temple of the Green Cauldron ritual of the year to be held outside, so besides the Samhain ritual, it generally has the biggest attendance.  I think there were probably about 30 people there!  Beltane is a fertility festival so there were plenty of naughty bits, including a little play of James chasing around one of the priestesses (possibly one of the funniest things I’ve ever seen) and a big old phallus-shaped loaf of bread.  There was also a May Pole dance and Fire Jumping!

Two surprises of the evening were my good friend Jenn’s Dedication and Megan & Kam’s surprise Handfasting!  Both were wonderful and of course made this poor pregnant lady tear up (although I think there were lots of tears during the Handfasting).  The evening was finished with a big potluck and lots of merriment.  I think it was probably my favorite ritual of the year so far.

39 Weeks and 5 Days yo!!!

I had my final pre-due date midwife appointment today.  All is good in baby land but my exam showed I’m not at all dilated so that was disappointing.  We had been hoping to do a membrane sweep but since there was no access to the membranes, then there was no sweep.  Boo!  Lyric’s heartbeat is good though and all my levels seem good so that’s what’s important.  My midwife recommended I start taking Evening Primrose and inserting it near my cervix because it contains Prolactins which help cervix effacement and dilation.  So, we’ll see how that goes.

Anyhoo, here’s a couple pix of me today.  Lyric is low and I can breathe!

Another Day…

Well, she didn’t come out last night and I’m not in labour.  I’m not entirely sure what she was up to last night but eventually the pain became constant for about an hour.  I think it was Lyric moving around and burrowing and trying to get in a better position.  When I woke up this morning she was about 2-3 inches lower and my pubic bone, pelvis, and hips are in agony.  It also feels like she’s trying to come out of my butt (tmi?).  Hopefully all the pressure is opening up my cervix and leading us closer.